Silence
Red Cliffs, seasonal crescendo, riot of Spring
Death Dowry
This may be a mis-nomer—but it comes from the reality that there are things we relish and deny ourselves throughout life. Perhaps it’s legitimate to purchase, embrace, plan some of these things for our final days. This came to me while at the Jefferson Hotel in Richmond. I relished the bathrobe provided in the room, I was so sad that it wasn’t until the second night that I realized it was for me to use. As I reached to untie the sash, the texture was sooo rich. Like my mom’s meringue, only fluffier. I priced a carbon copy in the…
Prevenient Grace
Her name was Catherine and she was full of grace. She danced when no one else would. She’d kiss your hand, and pat your cheek at every introduction. You were a most welcome friend to her regardless of whether she remembered your name, the day of the week, or the occasion of your “visit.” She lived the smell of roses. Her southern hospitality was the welcome of a rose-lined path. As time went on, the confusion worsened, each fall took its toll in memory loss. She’d set her jaw in a look of confusion as she sat alone. But as…
Fool’s Gold
All that glitters is not gold. When choosing a place for a loved one with dementia it is very important to research what is truly being offered. Is it simply a secured unit? Does it have a different staffing ratio? Is the staff trained in dementia care? An individual with dementia has unique activity needs. How is that accommodated on the unit? Is the unit designed to encourage reminiscence? As a caregiver, you are very aware of the unique challenges your loved one presents in the face of medication; meals; loss of independence. How is the facility prepared to meet…
Pioneer Network
Last weekend passionate people committed to changing the face of long-term care met in Little Rock, Arkansas. 1200 strong, they came from many states, many types of care backgrounds but focused on one goal—changing care. It was an inspiring gathering with long-time personal heroes like Bill Thomas and Dr. Richard Taylor taking concepts to a new level. I was fortunate enough to be one of many guides to personalizing care. It was a powerful weekend that will serve as fuel for my teaching, my research and my writing.
Evergreen
“A tree planted by the river is evergreen . . .” This Jeremiah verse 17:8 has been my mantra in providing dementia care. As a healthcare worker I have seen how quickly an elder can die though still breathing, still receiving excellent medical and physical care. The river that once flowed through their life, had moved as surely as a tree that was uprooted. Transplanted to a sterile environment that lacks the unique characteristics that once made them thrive. This environment has many caretakers that tend their physical needs but just a few whose role is to tend their spirit. …
Chicken Legs and Bud Light
Today was a final farewell to a beloved member of my eldercare community. She came to us reluctantly from independent living with higher health needs then they could manage. Happy hour was the daily norm for her. Bud Light was her favorite. But she adapted to Root Beer Float Socials and a personal happy hour . Bingo was a second favorite, with a call of B11 resulting in her humorous exclamation of “Chicken Legs”. These are the monikers that will come to mind for years to come for many of us. But what really will linger is her grace. She…
If Forced to Choose
My dissertation data collection coupled with helping find Long-Term Care for an elder has left me in a curious position. I have been a committed proponent of elder healthcare that combines the medical and social model. Attending body as well as spirit. The commitment was rooted in two phenomenal work experiences with teams committed to the dual model. Keep in mind, we didn’t call them by the academic term–medical and social models. We simply were committed to holistic care at Winter Growth and at Asbury Methodist Village. Both non-profits had created a team and an environment of care that allowed…
Dementia Care Australia
In researching person-centered care and its impact on both staff and residents with dementia, I followed the source to Dementia Care Australia. It is a look into what I hope to one day develop. The focus on facilitating culture change in facilities through training, presentations, and even products is refreshing. Check out the program, Spark of Life. It’s based in solid best practice.
Count Your Blessings
He came to us through the labyrinth of university closed doors. Ninety-two years old, Jesse G. wanted to develop a cognitive brain program. He landed on Dr. E’s desk because she has a big heart and hoped to gain future goodwill for research in the assisted living arena. He was a successful business man with a passion to get his peers out of their depression and back into life. By the time our research team met with him, he had formulated an entire program of reminiscence as well as a battery of tests to assess its value. He envisioned starting…